A Sandpiper To Bring You Joy

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written by Mary Sherman Hilbert
1980 Reader's Digest
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She was six years old when I first met her on the beach near where I live. I drive to this beach, a distance of three or four miles, whenever the world begins to close in on me. She was building a sand castle or something and looked up, her eyes blue as the sea.
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"Hello," she said. I answered with a nod, not really in the mood to bother with a small child.
"Hello," she said. I answered with a nod, not really in the mood to bother with a small child.
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"I'm building," she said.
"I'm building," she said.
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"I see that. What is it?" I asked, not caring.
"I see that. What is it?" I asked, not caring.
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"Oh I don't know, I just like the feel of the sand."
"Oh I don't know, I just like the feel of the sand."
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That sounds good, I thought, and slipped off my shoes. A sandpiper glided by.
That sounds good, I thought, and slipped off my shoes. A sandpiper glided by.
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"That's a joy," the child said.
"That's a joy," the child said.
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"It's what?"
"It's what?"
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"It's a joy. My mama says sandpipers come to bring us joy."
"It's a joy. My mama says sandpipers come to bring us joy."
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The bird went on down the beach. "Good-bye joy," I muttered to myself, "hello pain," and turned to walk on. I was depressed; my life seemed completely out of balance.
The bird went on down the beach. "Good-bye joy," I muttered to myself, "hello pain," and turned to walk on. I was depressed; my life seemed completely out of balance.
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"What's your name?" She wouldn't give up.
"What's your name?" She wouldn't give up.
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"Ruth," I answered. "I'm Ruth Peterson."
"Ruth," I answered. "I'm Ruth Peterson."
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"Mine's Wendy,... and I'm six."
"Mine's Wendy,... and I'm six."
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"Hi, Wendy."
"Hi, Wendy."
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She giggled. "You're funny," she said.
She giggled. "You're funny," she said.
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In spite of my gloom I laughed too and walked on.
In spite of my gloom I laughed too and walked on.
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Her musical giggle followed me. "Come again, Mrs. P," she called. "We'll have another happy day."
Her musical giggle followed me. "Come again, Mrs. P," she called. "We'll have another happy day."
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The days and weeks that followed belonged to others: a group of unruly BoyScouts, PTA meetings, an ailing mother. The sun was shining one morning as I took my hands out of the dishwater.
The days and weeks that followed belonged to others: a group of unruly BoyScouts, PTA meetings, an ailing mother. The sun was shining one morning as I took my hands out of the dishwater.
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"I need a sandpiper," I said to myself, gathering up my coat. The never-changing balm of the seashore awaited me. The breeze was chilly, but I strode along, trying to recapture the serenity I needed. I had forgotten the child and was startled when she appeared.
"I need a sandpiper," I said to myself, gathering up my coat. The never-changing balm of the seashore awaited me. The breeze was chilly, but I strode along, trying to recapture the serenity I needed. I had forgotten the child and was startled when she appeared.
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"Hello, Mrs. P," she said. "Do you want to play?"
"Hello, Mrs. P," she said. "Do you want to play?"
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"What did you have in mind?" I asked, with a twinge of annoyance.
"What did you have in mind?" I asked, with a twinge of annoyance.
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"I don't know, you say."
"I don't know, you say."
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"How about charades?" I asked sarcastically.
"How about charades?" I asked sarcastically.
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The tinkling laughter burst forth again. "I don't know what that is."
The tinkling laughter burst forth again. "I don't know what that is."
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"Then let's just walk." Looking at her, I noticed the delicate fairness of her face.
"Then let's just walk." Looking at her, I noticed the delicate fairness of her face.
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"Where do you live?" I asked.
"Where do you live?" I asked.
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"Over there." She pointed toward a row of summer cottages. Strange, I thought, in winter.
"Over there." She pointed toward a row of summer cottages. Strange, I thought, in winter.
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"Where do you go to school?"
"Where do you go to school?"
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"I don't go to school. Mommy says we're on vacation."
"I don't go to school. Mommy says we're on vacation."
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She chattered little girl talk as we strolled up the beach, but my mind was on other things. When I left for home, Wendy said it had been a happy day. Feeling surprisingly better, I smiled at her and agreed.
She chattered little girl talk as we strolled up the beach, but my mind was on other things. When I left for home, Wendy said it had been a happy day. Feeling surprisingly better, I smiled at her and agreed.
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Three weeks later, I rushed to my beach in a state of near panic. I was in no mood even to greet Wendy. I thought I saw her mother on the porch and felt like demanding she keep her child at home.
Three weeks later, I rushed to my beach in a state of near panic. I was in no mood even to greet Wendy. I thought I saw her mother on the porch and felt like demanding she keep her child at home.
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"Look, if you don't mind," I said crossly when Wendy caught up with me,"I'd rather be alone today."
"Look, if you don't mind," I said crossly when Wendy caught up with me,"I'd rather be alone today."
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She seemed unusually pale and out of breath.
She seemed unusually pale and out of breath.
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"Why?" she asked.
"Why?" she asked.
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I turned on her and shouted, "Because my mother died!"-and thought, my God, why was I saying this to a little child?
I turned on her and shouted, "Because my mother died!"-and thought, my God, why was I saying this to a little child?
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"Oh," she said quietly, "then this is a bad day."
"Oh," she said quietly, "then this is a bad day."
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"Yes, and yesterday and the day before that and-oh, go away!"
"Yes, and yesterday and the day before that and-oh, go away!"
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"Did it hurt?"
"Did it hurt?"
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"Did what hurt?" I was exasperated with her, with myself.
"Did what hurt?" I was exasperated with her, with myself.
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"When she died?"
"When she died?"
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"Of course it hurt!" I snapped, misunderstanding, wrapped up in myself. I strode off.
"Of course it hurt!" I snapped, misunderstanding, wrapped up in myself. I strode off.
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A month or so after that, when I next went to the beach, she wasn't there. Feeling guilty, ashamed and admitting to myself I missed her, I went up to the cottage after my walk and knocked at the door. A drawn-looking young woman with honey-colored hair opened the door.
A month or so after that, when I next went to the beach, she wasn't there. Feeling guilty, ashamed and admitting to myself I missed her, I went up to the cottage after my walk and knocked at the door. A drawn-looking young woman with honey-colored hair opened the door.
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"Hello," I said. "I'm Ruth Peterson. I missed your little girl today and wondered where she was."
"Hello," I said. "I'm Ruth Peterson. I missed your little girl today and wondered where she was."
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"Oh yes, Mrs. Peterson, please come in." "Wendy talked of you so much. I'm afraid I allowed her to bother you. If she was a nuisance, please accept my apologies."
"Oh yes, Mrs. Peterson, please come in." "Wendy talked of you so much. I'm afraid I allowed her to bother you. If she was a nuisance, please accept my apologies."
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"Not at all-she's a delightful child," I said, suddenly realizing that I meant it. "Where is she?"
"Not at all-she's a delightful child," I said, suddenly realizing that I meant it. "Where is she?"
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"Wendy died last week, Mrs. Peterson. She had leukemia. Maybe she didn't tell you."
"Wendy died last week, Mrs. Peterson. She had leukemia. Maybe she didn't tell you."
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Struck dumb, I groped for a chair. My breath caught.
Struck dumb, I groped for a chair. My breath caught.
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"She loved this beach; so when she asked to come, we couldn't say no. She seemed so much better here and had a lot of what she called 'Happy Days.' But the last few weeks, she declined rapidly...." Her voice faltered. "She left something for you...if only I can find it. Could you wait a moment while I look?"
"She loved this beach; so when she asked to come, we couldn't say no. She seemed so much better here and had a lot of what she called 'Happy Days.' But the last few weeks, she declined rapidly...." Her voice faltered. "She left something for you...if only I can find it. Could you wait a moment while I look?"
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I nodded stupidly, my mind racing for something, anything, to say to this lovely young woman.
I nodded stupidly, my mind racing for something, anything, to say to this lovely young woman.
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She handed me a smeared envelope, with MRS. P printed in bold, childish letters. Inside was a drawing in bright crayon hues-a yellow beach, a blue sea, a brown bird. Underneath was carefully printed:
She handed me a smeared envelope, with MRS. P printed in bold, childish letters. Inside was a drawing in bright crayon hues-a yellow beach, a blue sea, a brown bird. Underneath was carefully printed:
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A SANDPIPER TO BRING YOU JOY
A SANDPIPER TO BRING YOU JOY
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Tears welled up in my eyes, and a heart that had almost forgotten how to love opened wide. I took Wendy's mother in my arms. "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry," I muttered over and over, and we wept together.
Tears welled up in my eyes, and a heart that had almost forgotten how to love opened wide. I took Wendy's mother in my arms. "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry," I muttered over and over, and we wept together.
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The precious little picture is framed now and hangs in my study. Six words-one for each year of her life-that speak to me of inner harmony, courage, undemanding love. A gift from a child with sea-blue eyes and hair the color of sand-who taught me the gift of love.
The precious little picture is framed now and hangs in my study. Six words-one for each year of her life-that speak to me of inner harmony, courage, undemanding love. A gift from a child with sea-blue eyes and hair the color of sand-who taught me the gift of love.
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written by Mary Sherman Hilbert
1980 Reader's Digest
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For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. Anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men. - Romans 14:17-18
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Snopes.com - The Sandpiper plagiarized by the ghost Robert Peterson
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Originally posted 05.07.06 - 11:10pm
5 Comments:
Regarding the story on your site called A Sandpiper To Bring You Joy on this site: http://shawnremembered5.blogspot.com/2006/05/sandpiper-by-robert-peterson-she-was.html
The story was written by my mother Mary Sherman Hilbert NOT Robert Peterson.
My mother is still living and in the same room with me as I write. She is 85 years old and still living near the beach the story took place on.
Her story is copyrighted in the Library of Congress.
The story is also published in Chicken Soup For the Soul, has been into plays and re-written in many languages.
A person named Robert Peterson also took her story and changed it to place himself in it and in some cases even signed it as his own writing.
Here is one site that accurately recorded the background of the writer and those that have altered it: http://www.snopes.com/glurge/sandpiper.asp
Please do a Google search for her story for more information:
Here is one original version: http://www.new-life.net/favrt012.htm
Please replace Mr. Peterson's plagiarism with my mother's original story
Sincerely,
Leigh Hilbert
Hello Leigh:
Please forgive me, and I cannot apologize to you and your mother enough.
I also apologize for the delay in correcting this as well. I just found your comment today while I was updating.
I tried to do a search on 'Robert Peterson', and could not find anything on this person which now makes sense.
For some reason when I searched the information on this story the information did not list.
I obviously did not search well enough.
I would not have printed the plagerized story of 'A Sandpiper' if I had known it was. . .
but on the other hand I learned now of your mom.
This story means a great deal to me which is why I posted it here on my Shawn's site. I believe that it might mean a lot to others who are visiting as well.
I received the one by 'Robert' by email from a good friend.
Again I apologize for printing the wrong story, but I'm GLAD that I now have the right one now.
It must have been difficult in trying to correct the fraud circulating around the net about 'A Sandpiper'.
There is a lot of that going around the net too I'm sorry to say such as bogus Amber Alerts.
Please thank your mom for this story, and thank you to you as well for allowing me to repost it.
She is a gifted writer.
I cannot tell you how much I appreciate it.
I will look for it in a "Chicken Soup For The Soul".
Many blessings of peace to you,
Assuredly in faith,
Marguerite.
P.S. Maybe you could consider creating a bio. site page on your mom over at Wikipedia. I looked and didn't see anything listed. Many people look there for information. I look there all the time.
Hello Leigh, I do have the original Reader's Digest June 1980. John.
Does anybody know who Windy(Wendy) of this story is? Where she is buried?
Yes, I read this story in 1980s from my aunt's compilation of RDs. It really touched my heart. But what I only remember was that it is a story of a sicked child who is spending her last days in the beach..I do not remember anything on it. I just tried to google it, and THANKS bec it is completely here! Now I remember the whole story. It is superb and so touchy.
It is not in 2007 nor 2013. It is in the 80s.
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